Why Is My 3 Month Old Fighting Nursing?

As a parent, it can be incredibly frustrating and concerning when your 3-month-old starts fighting nursing sessions. It’s important to remember that there can be a variety of reasons for this behavior, and understanding the potential causes can help you address the issue effectively.

Underlying Stress Factors

One common reason for a baby to fight nursing is the presence of stress factors in their environment. This could include instances such as having extra company over, returning to work after maternity leave, traveling, moving to a new home, or dealing with a family crisis. Babies are incredibly perceptive to changes in their surroundings, and these stressors can affect their feeding behavior.

Physical Discomfort

Another factor to consider is whether your baby is experiencing any physical discomfort that is making nursing uncomfortable for them. It’s possible that your baby has an illness or injury that is causing them pain during feeding, such as an ear infection, a stuffy nose, thrush, or a cut in their mouth. In such cases, it’s natural for them to resist nursing.

Teething Troubles

Teething can be a challenging time for both babies and parents, and it can also contribute to a baby fighting nursing. If your baby is around 3 months old, they may be starting to experience discomfort from teething. Sore gums and the urge to chew on things can make the act of feeding less appealing to them.

Overstimulation or Distractions

Babies at this age can easily become overstimulated, especially during feeding times. If there are too many distractions or noise around during nursing sessions, your baby may struggle to focus and may resist feeding. Creating a calm and quiet environment can help alleviate this issue.

Changes in Feeding Patterns

It’s also possible that your baby is simply going through a phase of changing feeding patterns. At around 3 months, babies may start to become more aware of their surroundings and may become easily distracted during feeds. This can lead them to fight nursing as they become more curious about their environment.

Need for More Active Engagement

Some babies may prefer a more active feeding experience as they grow older. If your baby is becoming more alert and energetic, they may resist nursing in favor of more interactive activities. Consider incorporating more engaging interactions during feeding to keep them interested.

Uncomfortable Feeding Position

The positioning during nursing plays a crucial role in your baby’s comfort and ease of feeding. If your baby is fighting nursing, it could be due to discomfort in the feeding position. Experimenting with different positions or seeking guidance from a lactation consultant may help address this issue.

Feeling Overfull or Gassy

Feeling overfull or gassy can also impact your baby’s willingness to nurse. If they are experiencing discomfort due to gas build-up or feeling overly full, they may resist feeding. Burping your baby regularly during and after feeds can help alleviate this discomfort.

Developmental Milestones

It’s important to keep in mind that babies go through rapid developmental changes in the first year of life. At 3 months, your baby may be reaching new milestones that affect their behavior, including their feeding habits. These changes in development can influence their nursing preferences.

Regression in Feeding Habits

Regression in feeding habits is not uncommon in babies and can occur for various reasons. Your baby may be going through a growth spurt, experiencing a leap in their cognitive development, or adjusting to changes in their routine. These factors can lead to temporary resistance to nursing.

Emotional Connection and Comfort

Feeding is not just a physical act for babies; it is also a time for emotional connection and comfort. Your baby may be seeking different forms of comfort or attachment, leading them to fight nursing. Understanding your baby’s emotional needs and providing reassurance can help address this issue.

Why Is My 3 Month Old Fighting Nursing?

Consulting with Healthcare Providers

If your baby continues to fight nursing and you are concerned about their feeding behavior, it’s important to consult with healthcare providers for personalized guidance. They can help assess any underlying issues, provide support, and offer tailored strategies to improve your baby’s feeding experience.

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Nancy Sherman

Nancy Sherman has more than a decade of experience in education and is passionate about helping schools, teachers, and students succeed. She began her career as a Teaching Fellow in NY where she worked with educators to develop their instructional practice. Since then she held diverse roles in the field including Educational Researcher, Academic Director for a non-profit foundation, Curriculum Expert and Coach, while also serving on boards of directors for multiple organizations. She is trained in Project-Based Learning, Capstone Design (PBL), Competency-Based Evaluation (CBE) and Social Emotional Learning Development (SELD).